As you delve into your own personal development (including spiritual, emotional, and physical as well), more and more you’re starting to realize that it’s utterly all about acknowledging your mistakes, but instead of looking back and regret everything that had happened, you should learn from them, and move forward.  You will get to realize that the mistakes are the ones that will help you to better yourself.

There were times when I wished there were manuals, books or guide for what’s going to happen with my life. I wished there was an app where I would get to know how or when I will overcome my ghosts. I wished there was an undo button that I can randomly click to erase the mistakes and traumas that happened in my past, because they still keep on haunting me until now. And then reality hit me, and told me “that’s not how life works.”

But what happens when we choose to let our mistakes define us? What happens when we lock ourselves in the past and allow it to paralyze our future with regrets and fear? We won’t be able to live freely and enjoy what the present and future can offer, and we will struggle to fully appreciate life and how beautiful it can be. We become so affected by those mistakes and so frightened of our future that we unconsciously self-sabotage our present. We get so busy reading books, and writing down lists because we believe if we have all the knowledge and answers, we’ll never experience committing mistakes again.

Again, that’s now how life works. As long as you are living, you will make more mistakes, and when you make mistakes, that means you are learning.  We need to remind ourselves that letting go from our mistakes does not mean we bury them and forget it forever. Letting go doesn’t mean we forget, letting go means you finally have enough courage to unload that heavy burden you have been carrying for a long time – guilt, regret.

We can’t go back and redo our past. We can’t unbreak our broken hearts. We can’t change what we had chosen. We can’t change our decisions we had made. But today, and every day, we are being reminded that we always have the chance to change how we allow it to affect our future. Today, I am surrendering all the things that I can no longer change. Today, I am helping myself to learn more and become better.